Who we are
Shibari Lounge — The place to not only lose yourself, but find yourself too.
Shibari Lounge is a welcoming, neurodivergent-aware shibari and BDSM space that exists both online and in person. Anchored by our cosy, purpose-built rope studio in Leigh-on-Sea, Essex — just a short distance from London — the Lounge also extends beyond its physical walls through online education, resources, and wider community connection.
Our inclusive, low-pressure environment is designed to support both beginners and experienced practitioners. Whether you’re joining us for in-house shibari workshops, rope jams, kink education, or engaging with the Lounge online, everything we offer is shaped by consent, communication, and community. We aim to provide a risk-aware space where you can explore rope, kink, and connection — at your own pace, in your own way.
Our Values
Consent is Key.
Every interaction at Shibari Lounge — online and in person — is built on mutual respect, care, and communication. We follow and actively promote the principles of P.R.I.C.K. (Personal Responsibility, Informed, Consensual Kink), R.A.C.K. (Risk Aware Consensual Kink), and S.S.C. (Safe, Sane, and Consensual). Whether you’re new to kink or deeply experienced, we ask that you take time to understand these frameworks to ensure everyone feels safe, seen and respected.
Body Positivity.
We welcome and celebrate all bodies—every size, shape, gender, skin tone, and ability. Our space is built on the belief that self-love, exploration, and empowerment belong to everyone.
Diversity & Inclusion.
Shibari Lounge is proudly LGBTQIA+ friendly, welcoming all sexualities, identities, and cultural backgrounds. Everyone deserves a space to learn, connect, and play—free from judgment.
Knowledge is power.
We know BDSM and rope can come with a lot of jargon! That’s why we link to helpful resources like The Kinktionary and will soon be releasing our own Shibari Glossary to help you feel comfortable and confident during workshops and jams.
Respect our house.
Before attending any events, please take a moment to read our Terms & Conditions and Code of Conduct. They help us keep the space safe, joyful, and consent-focused for everyone. If you have any questions then please contact us.
Shibari Lounge —
Your home away from home
Shibari Lounge is more than a studio. It’s a space designed to support presence, comfort, and connection — a place to arrive, settle, and practise without pressure.
The studio was created to balance Japanese-influenced rope aesthetics with a sense of warmth and ease. It is intentionally calm rather than overwhelming, offering rich textures, adaptable environments, and a pace that allows people to move and explore in ways that feel right for them.
Every element of the space has been chosen with care, guided by the needs of the community who use it.
Lighting that adapts — Dimmable, colour-changing, and adjustable in every direction.
Sound that soothes — Music can be soft, off, or tuned differently on each side.
Comfort you can feel — Cushions and blankets in different textures, sizes, and weights.
Flooring to suit you — EVA foam matting, traditional Japanese tatami, or a cosy rug — each one suitable for floor work and suspension.
Always clean, always cared for — A fresh, hygienic, and welcoming space.
Shibari Lounge is a neurodivergent-aware, LGBTQIA+ inclusive, and private space - created for those seeking intimacy, care, and thoughtful practice. It is designed to support rest and exploration alike: somewhere you can play, connect, learn, and simply be.
This is the space I longed for - and one I’m proud to share.
Bex
Founder, Shibari Lounge
Where the physical studio is
Nestled on the Thames Estuary, Leigh-on-Sea, Essex is a vibrant coastal town in south-east England, known for its artistic community, independent shops, and traditional fishing heritage. Just 40 minutes from London Fenchurch Street via the c2c line, it offers an easy escape from the city while remaining highly accessible.
Shibari Lounge is located in the heart of Leigh-on-Sea, just off The Broadway, surrounded by cafés, art spaces, and the gentle buzz of the seaside. A short walk from Leigh-on-Sea Station, the studio is easy to reach by train, and only a ten-minute drive or quick taxi ride from London Southend Airport.
If you’re arriving by car, local street parking is available, and the nearby Elm Road car park is free after 6pm — ideal for evening jams, workshops, and events.
Our coastal setting brings together calm, creativity, and connection. With its mix of sea air, walkable streets, and strong local community, Leigh-on-Sea provides a supportive and grounding backdrop for in-person rope practice and kinbaku exploration.
📍 To protect the privacy and comfort of our community, the studio’s exact address isn’t published online. Full directions are provided by email after booking, alongside your tickets, helping to keep Shibari Lounge a safe, discreet, and welcoming space for everyone who attends.
Where the online studio is
Shibari Lounge began as a physical space — a warm, calm studio designed to feel like a home away from home. As the Lounge has grown, that same ethos now extends beyond the building.
Through online education and events, we bring the Lounge into your own home. Whether you’re joining from your sofa, your studio, or your own quiet corner of the world, the intention is the same: a low-pressure, care-led environment where learning can unfold at your pace.
Online sessions are designed to be accessible and grounding. There’s no expectation to perform, keep up, or be constantly visible. You’re invited to settle in, listen, reflect, and engage in ways that feel right for you — just as you would in the physical space.
In this way, the Lounge becomes shared rather than fixed. A place you can return to, whether in person or at home, to learn, reconnect, and deepen your relationship with rope.
About your hosts…
At Shibari Lounge, our heart lies in community. We’re a small but passionate core team who pour care into every detail — from teaching and hosting, to photography and behind-the-scenes support. Together we create a space where kinbaku can be explored with safety, creativity and connection at the centre.
Shibari Lounge is shaped not only by its founder, Bex, but by the wider community who pass through the space. We regularly host guest educators from the UK and abroad, each bringing their own perspectives, skills, and approaches to shibari through workshops, intensives, and special events.
The space is also supported by a dedicated team of volunteers who help welcome newcomers, assist during jams, and keep the studio running smoothly and with care. Their presence helps ensure Shibari Lounge remains a supportive, collaborative environment where learning and connection can thrive.
If you’re interested in teaching, collaborating, or hiring the venue for your own events, we’d love to hear from you.
Please get in touch at hello@shibarilounge.co.uk
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